What Does It Mean To Be A submissive?

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What Does It Mean To Be A submissive?

While chatting in a private group recently, a question was asked that I thought would be super helpful to share in a special edition of Dear Mistress. The question posted specifically asked “How do you know if you’re submissive?” which for me can be answered many different ways. Is the question being asked to figure out if you are A submissive? Or are you asking if you tend to be submissive in the bedroom?

Dear Mistress answered it in every way possible… because she’s always extra. ~Angie

From Dear Mistress:

How Do You Know If You’re Submissive?

You may have the need to be submissive in a relationship, or perhaps sexually submissive where you prefer someone else take the driver’s seat in sexual situations.

To be “a submissive” in the BDSM lifestyle is something different. That is where you have a specific dynamic and power exchange. You submit to a Dominant, and that can be 24/7 or however it works best for you. It’s a role in a lifestyle where there are rules and protocol.

If that’s something you crave, something that goes beyond being cared for in a relationship or being sexually submissive, it might be worth exploring.

It does make sense [that you want to be cared for]. You want someone to be the caregiver and have your emotional well-being be their focus. That’s not uncommon for someone who is used to being the caregiver and responsible one for not just themselves, but others, too.

What’s The Difference Between A submissive Or Being Submissive?

Be sure you’re looking at the differences between between A submissive versus being a submissive person. What you’re describing [in wanting to be cared for] does not sound like A submissive in terms of the BDSM lifestyle, but more of someone who wants a strong guiding hand to lead them for once and ensure that they’re loved and cared for.

If you are A submissive, your role is illustrated with a lowercase “s” to signify your place. If you’re simply a submissive person who is taking a backseat in a relationship, using a lowercase “s” would not be necessary.

Being sexually submissive

Being sexually submissive (adjective)

You allow your partner to be the one in control in sexual situations.

You prefer your partner to be the aggressive one in a sexual manner.

You assume no role.

You are equals in all other areas of your life.

There is no power exchange.

Being A submissive

Being A submissive (noun)

You assume the role of A submissive in an active dynamic within the BDSM lifestyle.

You are the submissive to a Dominant or Master.

Sex is not the reason for your role; this is a lifestyle choice and involves psychological control.

You willingly hand yourself over.

There is a power exchange.

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How Do I Know If I’m A Dominant Or A submissive?

It’s difficult to to pinpoint exactly what you would be in the lifestyle because you really need to have first-hand experience to determine if you actually enjoy those specific activities. If it’s just things that you’re imagining, I suppose it is going to give you a theoretical idea as to where you may fall, and also what you would want to try first. (Check out The BDSM Test to see where your tendencies fall.)

It’s like saying that you would LOVE to try skydiving because you’re an adventurous person, and then you try it and figure out that it’s not for you. You try it because in theory you assume you would like, but then it ends up not being for you. Same here. The BDSM Test is going to tell you where your tendencies may lie.

What’s The Deal With Kneeling?

Kneeling takes on a different meaning when you’re kneeling at the feet of your Dominant or Master (D/M). In the lifestyle, there are certain postures or positions that submissives and slaves learn, all part of the rules of your role and what your D/M demands of you.

When you think of kneeling, what comes to your mind? Probably reverence.

In this lifestyle, kneeling is done for two reasons (outside of the Gorean lifestyle, which has numerous positions for numerous reasons – it’s beautiful): it’s done for reverence and presentation. As a submissive, your place is at your D/M’s feet. That is where you want to be. That is where you find solace, respect, and your purpose. As a D/M, you can demand that your submissive/slave (s/s) kneels before you, even when tensions are high and they may be livid with you over something. Your s/s will kneel on command.

Before all else, the s/s kneels to show reverence, respect, adoration, vulnerability, strength, and trust. It’s the most beautiful sight to me. It’s not to be taken lightly or abused. It’s the ultimate show of reverence to a D/M because kneeling puts the s/s in their most vulnerable state. It’s submitting mentally, emotionally, and physically.

In terms of presentation, your D/M will instruct you on how to “present” yourself to them. That is done for obedience, inspection, and also can signify the start of a session. You are expected to know the demanded position and assume it on command. The s/s is displaying their role essentially. If I say, “Present yourself to me,” to my submissive, they know what I expect and know what’s coming to them if they forget. Again, this is a beautiful sight and it’s not to be taken lightly.

If the concept of kneeling for another person is something you don’t find appealing, a D/s dynamic might not be for you. And that’s perfectly okay. It’s most definitely a lot of rules, contracts, etc. If you feel you may want to explore it, there are lots of reference books and websites collected in past Dear Mistress columns. (Some are included below.)

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What If My Man Says He Has Dominant Tendencies?

Having dominant tendencies does not make A Dominant. Does he seem like an Alpha male? If so, he can be an Alpha in your life without having to assume the role of A Dominant. In assuming that role, a Dominant will be taking on a huge responsibility. It’s a massive undertaking which is why you will find more submissives than you will Dominants.

If he feels he is A Dominant, he would need to assume a role and there is a lot involved in doing so like training, mentoring, etc. It would have to be something that he is committed to because the dynamic is based on psychological control. So to do it, it’s hard when both participants are inexperienced.

For someone to say he has dominant tendencies, it sounds like you might want to try a few things casually with him merely taking on an Alpha role in your life, not A Dominant. If you’re still getting to know him, be careful. Taking on a D/s dynamic is as serious as a marriage and involves more communication, trust, and vulnerability. I would suggest you BOTH read up on it.

How Do I Make My Man Into A More Dominant Person?

It’s extremely difficult to change someone’s tendencies or turn them into something they’re not. You can awaken curiosities and a willingness to try, but that has to align with the person’s inherent personality. It takes a ton of confidence to pull off a convincing Alpha persona.

Sadly, a lot of women get married at a younger age and do not fully understand what they need. Once they mature emotionally and sexually, they find themselves in a tough spot of not being truly fulfilled. Very challenging.

How Do I Know If I’m A Switch?

You don’t have to identify yourself either way because it’s normal sexual drive to occasionally want to be the aggressor and then occasionally want to be controlled; different people bring out different feelings in us. The way you respond to one person and their sexual vibe will be totally different than the next one.

If you come across a strong Alpha type, your instincts will probably tell you that you want to challenge him to see if he can top your dominant traits. It’s like a test to see how you match up sexually. Your controlling self is drawing a line in the sand to see if he will have the balls to step over it.

And the end of the day you want to be cared for and adored for the kickass women you are. You want to find a person who appreciates the ravenous beast, but also loves the tenderness that gets buried by daily life. I think it’s normal to want that balance for personal fulfillment. The great thing is you are in tune with your needs and that’s half the battle.

In terms of labels within the BDSM lifestyle, Switches do exist, but they mean something a little different. The difference is you should not change your dynamic with your partner. If you’re topping a person, you should not bottom with them because it will throw off the dynamic in a HUGE way. Granted the lifestyle labels are needed because that defines your role, and that’s totally different than determining your sexual tastes with a specific partner. Once you take BDSM out of it, it’s no longer about psychological control and a power exchange.

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22 Books Guaranteed To Hurt You So GoodGet out your tissues and shovel, friends. You’re going to need them to wipe your tears and dig out your heart after reading these tear-jerker romance books!

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November 9 by Colleen Hoover

WHAT READERS SAY

“Great job, Colleen. You’ve done another hatchet job on my heart.” ~Angie’s Recommendation

“It’s unique and beautifully written with all of the intense feels you expect from a CoHo masterpiece.” ~Adrian’s Recommendation

★★★★★

PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS

Beloved #1 New York Times bestselling author Colleen Hoover returns with an unforgettable love story between a writer and his unexpected muse.

Fallon meets Ben, an aspiring novelist, the day before her scheduled cross-country move. Their untimely attraction leads them to spend Fallon’s last day in L.A. together, and her eventful life becomes the creative inspiration Ben has always sought for his novel. Over time and amidst the various relationships and tribulations of their own separate lives, they continue to meet on the same date every year. Until one day Fallon becomes unsure if Ben has been telling her the truth or fabricating a perfect reality for the sake of the ultimate plot twist.

Can Ben’s relationship with Fallon—and simultaneously his novel—be considered a love story if it ends in heartbreak?

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Bright Side by Kim Holden


WHAT READERS SAY

“I knew going into Bright Side that it’s supposed to be a tear-jerker, so I thought I was ready. I wasn’t ready.” ~Angie’s Recommendation

“I’m still recovering. I read it last week. I have Gus ready to go but I’m still hungover from Bright Side.”

“I loved Gus as well. I love all her books.”

★★★★★


PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS

Secrets.
Everyone has one.
Some are bigger than others.
And when secrets are revealed,
Some will heal you …
And some will end you.

Kate Sedgwick’s life has been anything but typical. She’s endured hardship and tragedy, but throughout it all she remains happy and optimistic (there’s a reason her best friend Gus calls her Bright Side). Kate is strong-willed, funny, smart, and musically gifted. She’s also never believed in love. So when Kate leaves San Diego to attend college in the small town of Grant, Minnesota, the last thing she expects is to fall in love with Keller Banks.

They both feel it.
But they each have a reason to fight it.
They each have a secret.

And when secrets are revealed,
Some will heal you …
And some will end you.

Note from the author: Due to strong language and sexual content, this book is recommended for mature audiences.
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Arsen by Mia Asher


WHAT READERS SAY

“I cried, I cried some more; I hated, I mourned, and I wanted so much for good things.” ~Angie’s Recommendation

“I think I read this book when I just discovered GR and book groups and I read this one, my first Ugly Cry book.”

“It was my first ugly cry too…haven’t read many since.”

“OMG… Yes…this!!! It wrecked me… This fucked me up!”

★★★★★

PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS

One glance was all it took…

I’m a cheater.
I’m a liar.
My whole life is a mess.

I love a man.
No, I love two men…
I think.

One makes love to me. The other sets me on fire.
One is my rock. The other is my kryptonite.

I’m broken, lost, and disgusted with myself.

But I can’t stop. This is my story.
My broken love story.

Standalone

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Breaking Nova by Jessica Sorensen

WHAT READERS SAY

“This book should come with a warning: Crying commences less than 10 pages into reading and continues throughout.” ~Angie’s Recommendation

“I had to get emotional support.”

★★★★★

PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS

From the #1 New York Times bestselling author of the Ella and Micha series comes a powerful story of love, healing, and impossible choices . . .

BREAKING NOVA

Nova Reed used to have dreams-of becoming a famous drummer, of marrying her true love. But all of that was taken away in an instant. Now she’s getting by as best she can, though sometimes that means doing things the old Nova would never do. Things that are slowly eating away at her spirit. Every day blends into the next . . . until she meets Quinton Carter. His intense, honey brown eyes instantly draw her in, and he looks just about as broken as she feels inside.

Quinton once got a second chance at life-but he doesn’t want it. The tattoos on his arm are a constant reminder of what he’s done, what he’s lost. He’s sworn to never allow happiness into his life . . . but then beautiful, sweet Nova makes him smile. He knows he’s too damaged to get close to her, yet she’s the only one who can make him feel alive again. Quinton will have to decide: does he deserve to start over? Or should he pay for his past forever?

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Archer’s Voice by Mia Sheridan

WHAT READERS SAY

“I was pleasantly surprised at the sexiness of the love scenes and emotionally wrecked while reading the flashbacks and present-day struggles of both Archer and Bree.” ~Angie’s Recommendation

★★★★★

PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS

A New York Times, USA Today, and Wall Street Journal bestselling book. One of the Top 100 Romance Novels of All time on Goodreads! Archer’s Voice is a full-length, stand-alone romance.

I wanted to lose myself in the small town of Pelion, Maine. To forget everything I had left behind. The sound of rain. The blood. The coldness of a gun against my skin. For six months, each breath has been a reminder that I survived—and my dad didn’t. I’m almost safe again. But the moment I meet Archer Hale, my entire world tilts on its axis . . . and never rights itself again.

Until I trespass into his strange, silent, and isolated world, Archer communicates with no one. Yet in his whiskey-colored eyes, something intangible happens between us. There’s so much more to him than just his beauty, his presence, or the ways his hands communicate with me. On me. But this town is mired in secrets and betrayals, and Archer is the explosive center of it all.

So much passion. And so much hurt. But it’s only in Archer’s silence that we might just find what we need to heal . . . and live.

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Carnage by Lesley Jones

WHAT READERS SAY

“GUTTED ME… I want to read it again but I just can’t bring myself to do it.”

“Still can’t re-read. I think it’ll be worse the second time!”

PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS

A boy who dreamed about rock and roll.
A girl who dreamed about a boy.
A story about obsessive love, betrayal, loss and learning.
This is NOT, your typical love story, but this is OUR story. The Story Of Us:
‘I was just eleven years old, but I knew without a shadow of a doubt I staring into the eyes of the boy I was going to love forever’
No matter how many lies are told, no matter how many people conspire to keep us apart, despite the fame and the distance, it will only ever be him.
Carnage is an epic love story that breaks all the rules, transcends the generations and spans over twenty years
Georgia and Sean’s story will stay with you long after you read the final word.
An emotional, gut wrenching read.
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A Taylor-Made Life by Kary Rader

WHAT READERS SAY

“It’s saying a lot as I’m a bit of an emotional cripple. I don’t really do crying, and when I do, I’m a ‘pissed off’ crier.'”

PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS

They lived the life they were given; they loved the life they made.

Cheerleader Taylor Smith doesn’t want to die a virgin. Unfortunately, if the terminally-ill leukemia patient doesn’t find a lover or a stem-cell match within months, her fear will become reality. When her cancer mentor is revealed to be a hottie entrepreneur from California, it seems fate might finally be on her side.

Tech-geek Gavin Taylor has everything he ever wanted, except someone to grieve for him when he’s gone. With his melanoma cancer beyond the help of his riches, he agrees to participate in a cancer patient mentoring program where he’s matched with a dying teen from Texas. Despite his immediate attraction, the Silicon Valley whiz intends only to provide friendship and happy memories to the beautiful, young woman who is determined to win his love.

When it’s discovered that his frozen sperm and her harvested eggs could lead to a cure, Taylor’s mother offers to be a surrogate. And Gavin must decide if he can risk the heart he has never given and a child he’ll never know to a girl he just met.

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Second Chances by Lauren Dane


WHAT READERS SAY

“The Brown Family & The Chase Brothers are my fav series!!! I love Lauren Dane SO big!”

PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS

Ten years ago, Rori Simon left town shy, unattractive and with zero self-esteem. Now she’s back, older, stronger and finally loving herself—and it shows. Hot men are soon knocking at her door, including Jude Callahan, the bad boy who starred in her teenage daydreams…and her adult fantasies.

Jude can’t believe the sexy, confident woman before him is actually Rori! She’s gotten under his skin like no other woman has…and she brings out secret desires he can’t resist. He wants to dominate Rori with every fiber of his being. Wants to own her and pleasure her. To cherish her as he makes her his.

Rori discovers she likes being controlled. She also knows Jude is not a one-woman man. Everything changes when she meets Zach Helm. Edgy, sensual Zach knows just what she needs, and before long, she’s in love. Jude watches them together and wonders if he’s lost his chance forever…

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Laid Bare by Lauren Dane

WHAT READERS SAY

“It gutted me six ways to Sunday!”

PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS

It’s been ten years since clean-cut, sexy-as-hell police officer Todd Keenan had a white-hot fling with wild, uninhibited rocker Erin Brown. What happened between them got under his skin—even if love wasn’t in the cards just yet…

Now that they’re back together, picking up where they left off is tough in light of Erin’s troubled past. As Todd earns her trust, their relationship takes an unexpected turn. Todd’s best friend, Ben, comes to play, arousing their deepest fantasies. The passion they share transforms Erin, but it may not be enough to face the evil she thought she had left behind.

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Always by Kindle Alexander

WHAT READERS SAY

“I was blubbering and I never cry from book.”

PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS

Awards
Favorite All-Time M/M Romance 2015 Member Choice Awards Goodreads
Book of the Year 2014 Member Choice Awards Goodreads MM Romance
Book of the Year 2014 Sinfully Sexy Book Reviews
LGBT Book of the Year 2015 eLit Awards

Born to a prestigious political family, Avery Adams plays as hard as he works. The gorgeous, charismatic attorney is used to getting what he wants, even the frequent one-night stands that earn him his well-deserved playboy reputation. When some of the most prominent men in politics suggest he run for senate, Avery decides the time has come to follow in his grandfather’s footsteps. With a strategy in place and the campaign wheels rolling, Avery is ready to jump on the legislative fast track, full steam ahead. But no amount of planning prepares him for the handsome, uptight restaurateur who might derail his political future.

Easy isn’t even in the top thousand words to describe Kane Dalton’s life after his father, a devout Southern Baptist minister, kicks him out of the family home for questioning his sexual orientation. Despite all the rotten tomatoes life throws his way, Kane makes something of himself. Between owning a thriving upscale Italian restaurant in the heart of downtown Minneapolis and managing his long-term boyfriend, his plate is full. He struggles to get past the teachings of his childhood to fully accept his sexuality and rid himself of the doubts brought on by his religious upbringing. The last thing he needs is the yummy, sophisticated, blond-haired distraction sitting at table thirty-four.

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True by Ella Frank

WHAT READERS SAY

“A big ugly snot bubble happy cry!”

PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS
True – adjective: That which is accurate or exact.

I dare you to try.
I think you’re my truth.
Terrify me.
Marry me.
Marry me.
Marry me…

Four years ago, Logan Mitchell walked into Tate’s life and challenged him to see it differently.

He dared Tate to try a kiss, when normally he wouldn’t have.
He begged him to take a chance, when he probably shouldn’t have.
But most importantly, he asked Tate to trust that he would love him, and he did. From that moment on, Tate realized exactly what his life had been missing—Logan.

Happily-ever-afters come in many different forms. But for Tate Morrison, there’s only one ending he wants. The one where the guy marries the guy and true love conquers all.

Now all he has to do is tell Logan.

Join Logan and Tate as they finally realize what the rest of us knew all along. That they belong together for better or worse—always.

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American Queen by Sierra Simone

WHAT READERS SAY

“The series made me cry like a baby. Every book, every heart wrenching twist and turn had me bawling like a 3 year old who’s ice cream cone fell into a steaming pile of dog poop.”

PUBLISHER SYNOPSIS

It starts with a stolen kiss under an English sky, and it ends with a walk down the aisle. It starts with the President sending his best friend to woo me on his behalf, and it ends with my heart split in two. It starts with buried secrets and dangerous desires…and ends with the three of us bound together with a hateful love sharper than any barbed wire.

My name is Greer Galloway, and I serve at the pleasure of the President of the United States.

This is the story of an American Queen.

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Last Girl by Kitty Thomas


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Invisible Love Letter by Callie Anderson


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Written in the Scars by Adriana Locke


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Taking Chances by Molly McAdams


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My Biggest Mistake by Leddy Harper


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Rose Madder by Stephen King


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Sometimes Moments by Len Webster


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A Thousand Boy Kisses by Tillie Cole


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180 Seconds by Jessica Park


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Sloth by Ella James


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Marriage of Inconvenience by Penny Reid

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{Favorite Romance Book Cover}

Breaking Gravity by Autumn Grey
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American King by Sierra Simone

Favorite Shameless Book

{Favorite Book by a Shameless Book Con 2017 Author}

The Ghostwriter by Alessandra Torre

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{Favorite Romance Book of 2017}

American King by Sierra Simone

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Time To VOTE! Shameless Book Awards 2017

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Time To VOTE! Shameless Book Awards 2017

Time To VOTE! Shameless Book Awards 2017You’ve been waiting for this day all year, and it’s finally here! The 5th Annual Shameless Book Awards are now open for all of your votes.

VOTE
for your favorite romance books of 2017!

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IMPORTANT
Voting closes on December 11th @ 6pm ET.

Awards announced LIVE on Facebook December 14th at 8pm ET!


VOTE

Vote as many times as you wanna, though we ask that you don’t spam our ballot.

Authors

Get your readers voting for you! Tell ’em it’s a life or death situation! Play the pity card! Save the whales!

Don’t see the ballot below? Go directly to it.


GIVEAWAY

After you vote, enter to win up to $220 in Amazon gift cards!
(Additional sponsors may be added throughout the voting period.)

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Dear Mistress’s Deviant Days of December

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Dear Mistress’s Deviant Days of December

In search of the perfect naughty adult gift for yourself, a loved one, or maybe a family member? Dear Mistress will be bringing us a gift a day every day leading up to Christmas.

Come back every day in December to see what Dear Mistress has in store for her Deviant Days of December!

Day 10 - December 15th

Day 9 - December 12th
Day 8 - December 11th
Day 7 - December 7th
Day 6 - December 6th
Day 5 - December 5th
Day 4 - December 4th
Day 3 - December 3rd
Day 2 - December 2nd
Day 1 - December 1st

Dear Mistress Also Recommends:

About Dear Mistress

Do you have a question for our resident Dear Mistress?

She’s experienced in all things BDSM, power exchange, and general knowledge of anything outside of traditional vanilla relationships. With over 25 years in the lifestyle behind her, she continues to live what she preaches and she’s sharing what she knows with us.

Nothing is off limits. NOTHING. Too embarrassed to ask a friend or afraid your search history will be discovered? Ask Dear Mistress!

Authors: Are you writing a book with BDSM? Ask the Mistress! Just make sure you include your name and email address in the question submission box, and she’ll email you personally.

Check back every #BDSMFriday – or whenever it pleases her – for the answers to your questions.

Want to know more from the Lady in Charge? Visit Dear Mistress’s earlier contributions.

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Black Friday 2017 Sales & Deals (A-E)

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Black Friday 2017 Sales & Deals (A-E)

Our list of Black Friday 2017 sales is so huge, we’re spreading the list out over 3 posts!

A-E (below)
Aeropostale, Amazon, Banana Republic, Barnes & Noble, Betsey Johnson, Best Buy, The Body Shop, The Book Depository, Butterfly Twists, Columbia Sportswear,

H-R
Happy Socks, Harry & David, Hips & Curves, Ivory Ella, Lane Bryant, Laura Mercier, LELO, L’Occitane, Old Navy, Pura Vida, Ralph Lauren, Redbubble

S-Z
Sephora, Society6, Soma, Steve Madden, Sur La Table, Talbots, Tantus, Two Faced, Torrid, Udemy, Zazzle

Aeropostale

Black Friday 60-70% Off Everything With No Exclusions + Online Extra 30% Off Clearance Use Code: EXTRA30 + Free Shipping Over $50 + Doorbusters at Aeropostale! Valid 11/22 – 11/25
ends 22/25/2017

Amazon

$30 off Kindle Paperwhite (Shameless e-reader of choice!)

Banana Republic

Black Friday: 50% off regular-priced items. No Banana Republic Merchandise Exclusions. Restrictions apply. Online and in store. Ends 11/25.
ends 11/25/2017

Barnes & Noble

Black Friday Weekend Sale: Take 20% Off Your Order With Code GIVETHANKS

Betsey Johnson

Black Friday is here! Get 35% off + Free Shipping with code BLACK
ends 11/26/2017

Best Buy

This Is Black Friday. Doorbusters Available Now at Best Buy! 11/23-11/25.
Save $125 on iPad mini 4 128GB
ends 11/25/2017

The Body Shop

40% Off EVERYTHING! Plus $50 ($125 Value) Black Friday Tote & Free Shipping! Valid 11/20-11/25
ends 11/25/2017

The Book Depository

The Book Depository: Check out today’s new Black Friday Week Deals for huge discounts and FREE delivery on J.K. Rowling, Dan Brown and more. These deals end soon and each deal lasts for 24 hours only so make sure you don’t miss out!

Butterfly Twists

BLACK FRIDAY – 70% off Site Wide at Butterfly Twists

Columbia

Black Friday Doorbusters! 50% Off Select Styles at Columbia.com! Plus, free shipping on all orders! Valid 11/24-11/25.
ends 11/24/2017

Eddie Bauer

Black Friday Sale: Shop 50% Off Using Code DEALS + Free Shipping
ends 11/24/2017

Elaine Turner

Black Friday Sale! Get 30% off sitewide, plus Gift Card deals at ElaineTurner.com
ends 11/26/2017

Erin Condren

Black Friday Sale – 30% Off Sitewide
Code: ECBF17
ends 11/28/2017

Visit our other Black Friday 2017 deals!

H-R
Happy Socks, Harry & David, Hips & Curves, Ivory Ella, Lane Bryant, Laura Mercier, LELO, L’Occitane, Old Navy, Pura Vida, Ralph Lauren, Redbubble

S-Z
Sephora, Society6, Soma, Steve Madden, Sur La Table, Talbots, Tantus, Two Faced, Torrid, Udemy, Zazzle

Black Friday 2017 Sales & Deals (H-R)

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Black Friday 2017 Sales & Deals (H-R)

Our list of Black Friday 2017 sales is so huge, we’re spreading the list out over 3 posts!

A-E
Aeropostale, Amazon, Banana Republic, Barnes & Noble, Betsey Johnson, Best Buy, The Body Shop, The Book Depository, Butterfly Twists, Columbia Sportswear

H-R (below)
Happy Socks, Harry & David, Hips & Curves, Ivory Ella, Lane Bryant, Laura Mercier, LELO, L’Occitane, Old Navy, Pura Vida, Ralph Lauren, Redbubble

S-Z
Sephora, Society6, Soma, Steve Madden, Sur La Table, Talbots, Tantus, Two Faced, Torrid, Udemy, Zazzle

Happy Socks

Black Friday! 40% OFF + Free Shipping at HappySocks.com! (Valid 11/23 at 7am EST to 11/26 at 7pm EST)
ends 11/26/2017

Harry & David

Black Friday Sale – Save up to 50% at Harry & David! (Valid from 11/22 @12:01am PST thru 11/25 @11:59pm PST)
ends 11/25/2017

Hips & Curves

Bodysuits are only $14.95. Two Days Only at Hips&Curves.
ends 11/25/2017

Ivory Ella

Up to 50% Off Select Items for Black Friday and Cyber Monday!
ends 11/28/2017

Lane Bryant

40% Off Entire Site Using the Code: BLACKFRIDAY Valid 11/23-11/27!
ends 11/27/2017

Laura Mercier

Black Friday: Flawless Contouring Palette plus Foundation Primer Sample Radiance with Contouring Palette purchase. Use code: CONTOUR
ends 11/25/2017

LELO

Up to 50% off + gift with purchase
Code: BFRIDAY17
*Offer valid only on LELO.com
ends November 29th 11:59PM PST

L’Occitane

Black Friday Exclusive: Buy 3, Get 1 Free! Limited Time Gifts! Valid 11/23-11/25.
Ends 11/25/2017

Old Navy

Black Friyay now! 50% OFF ENTIRE PURCHASE at oldnavy.com. No code needed. Discount taken at checkout. Online and in store. Restrictions apply. Ends 11/24.
ends 11/24/2017

Pura Vida

50% Off + Free Shipping on All Orders
ends 11/15/2017

Ralph Lauren

Black Friday Event: Take 40% off when you spend $125 or more with code THANKS40. Valid 11/24/17.
ends 11/24/2017

Redbubble

25% off All Apparel + 20% off Sitewide
Code: BLACKFRIDAY
ends 11/24/2017
Redbubble Men's Tees

Visit our other sale pages!

A-E
Aeropostale, Amazon, Banana Republic, Barnes & Noble, Betsey Johnson, Best Buy, The Body Shop, The Book Depository, Butterfly Twists, Columbia Sportswear

S-Z
Sephora, Society6, Soma, Steve Madden, Sur La Table, Talbots, Tantus, Two Faced, Torrid, Udemy, Zazzle

Black Friday 2017 Sales & Deals (S-Z)

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Black Friday 2017 Sales & Deals (S-Z)

Our list of Black Friday 2017 sales is so huge, we’re spreading the list out over 3 posts!

A-E
Aeropostale, Amazon, Banana Republic, Barnes & Noble, Betsey Johnson, Best Buy, The Body Shop, The Book Depository, Butterfly Twists, Columbia Sportswear

H-R
Happy Socks, Harry & David, Hips & Curves, Ivory Ella, Lane Bryant, Laura Mercier, LELO, L’Occitane, Old Navy, Pura Vida, Ralph Lauren, Redbubble

S-Z (below)
Sephora, Society6, Soma, Steve Madden, Sur La Table, Talbots, Tantus, Two Faced, Torrid, Udemy, Zazzle

Sephora

Black Friday Countdown! Deals-Giving! Here comes the beauty coma! Shop Deals-giving deals now. While supplies last. Online Only

Society6

25% Off Everything + Free Shipping on Almost Everything with Promo Code BLACKFRIDAY
*Free Shipping excludes Framed Prints, Canvas Prints, Metal Prints, and Floor Pillows
ends 11/24/2017

Soma

Black Friday BOGO 50% Entire Boutique + Free Shipping
ends 11/26/2017

Steve Madden

Shop booties, bags, flats and more! Get 30% off sitewide at Steve Madden’s Black Friday sale. Shop starting 11.24-11.27!
ends 11/27/2017

Sur La Table

Up To 70% off Black Friday deals at Surlatable.com! Ends 11/26/17
ends 11/26/2017

Talbots

Black Friday at Talbots is Here! 50% off one item until noon Friday, plus 40% off your entire purchase!
ends 11/24/2017

Tantus

BLACK FRIDAY SALE 50% Everything* 24 Hour Flash Sale: 11/23/17 12:00am PST to 11:59pm PST
Promo code: BLACKFRIDAY
*Sale excludes Feeldoes, Realdoes, Rumble, and Other Brands

Too Faced

Pink Friday Weekend on Toofaced.com! Enjoy 25% site wide + 3 FREE samples on $65+.
Use code GIVEME25
ends 11/26/2017

Torrid

40% Off Regular Items, 50% off Clearance Fashion for Sizes 10-30 at Torrid

Udemy

Black Friday Sale 2017 – $10 for All Users-11/16-11/28!
ends 11/28/2017

Zazzle

Black Friday Deal: Up to 70% off sale 20% off sitewide – Use code: ZBLACKFRIDAY – Starts: 11/24/2017 Expires: 11/24/2017 11:59 PM PST
70% off greeting cards and postcards
60% off business cards, calendars, posters, acrylic photo blocks
50% off canvas prints, gift tags, labels, playing cards, post-it’s, select cases, stickers, serving trays
40% off fleece blankets, ornaments, pillows, snow globes, stockings, tree skirts
30% off aprons gift bags golf balls mugs wrapping paper
20% off sitewide

Shop Black Friday on Zazzle

Visit our other sale posts!

A-E
Aeropostale, Amazon, Banana Republic, Barnes & Noble, Betsey Johnson, Best Buy, The Body Shop, The Book Depository, Butterfly Twists, Columbia Sportswear

H-R
Happy Socks, Harry & David, Hips & Curves, Ivory Ella, Lane Bryant, Laura Mercier, LELO, L’Occitane, Old Navy, Pura Vida, Ralph Lauren, Redbubble

Dear Mistress: D, Anonymous, H.S.

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Dear Mistress: D, Anonymous, H.S.

Since it’s Thanksgiving, I wanted to take this opportunity to give thanks to everyone who came out to see me in October at #Shameless17! I had an amazing time and was so impressed with your questions and comments. Watching your faces as I was speaking was thrilling (as was the occasional flicker strike).

Speaking of Shameless Book Con, we’re doing Dear Mistress Q&A again at #Shameless18! More info is at the end of this post.

Due to time constraints, we did not have enough time to get to all of the questions that were (for the most part) anonymously submitted, so I want to answer them now.

Dear Mistress,

Nora’s favorite toy is her riding crop. Do you have a favorite?

Lautrec equestrienne (at the cirque fernando) 1887-8

Dear D,

I do; I have two. The first is my 5’ single tail bullwhip. I’ve had it for well over a decade and it’s broken in and an extension of my arm. It feels like it’s a part of me and rightfully so. It took months of training to learn how to use it. It’s brutal and loud and I love it. I don’t always have the opportunity to use it given the space required, but it will always be my ultimate.

The second is my flicker. I’m sure you saw me hold it up at the Q&A and also give a few curiosity strikes to a few attendees. It’s also known as a dressage whip. It has a thin, flexible shaft with a comfortable handle on one end and a popper on the other. They are usually available between 36-47” in length and they are beautifully balanced and lightweight. With just a slight flick of the wrist, it delivers a sharp, precise strike that immediately warms and welts the skin.

Dear Mistress,

What is your favorite punishment to give out?

Michelangelo Punishment of Haman

Dear Anonymous,

I can’t say that I have actual favorites because it really needs to fit the scenario and every scenario is different. I will say that whatever I do, regardless if it can be considered a “punishment” or not, is done for impact and to get my point across. If there is something that I need to draw attention to, address, or emphasize, it comes out in the form of strikes that are meant to make the recipient focus and pay attention to what I am saying. I don’t like to have open-ended deliveries either. I prefer to have the strikes counted out, as I give an amount to be expected ahead of time. I find that makes the submissive stay focused.

If you’re referring to the most brutal punishment that I can deliver, well, that would be indifference. Since the dynamic is based on a mutual need and feeding off of each other for specific needs, it is through insouciance that the submissive feels the harshest of punishments. After all, attention is like a drug.

Dear Mistress,

My husband is finally (after 20 years) fulfilling my fantasies in rope bondage. What are some resources for him to learn technique/training? Are munches or clubs a good option?

Yomikiri Romance 20

Dear H.S.,

How exciting! It is super important for you to learn from a qualified Rope Master. I previously answered a question about rope bondage you’re welcome to read and share.

Rope bondage, especially involving suspension, needs to be done by an experienced Rope Master, as it can impact pressure points and circulation which can cause injury quickly. I would look for local events in your area (such as munches or kink events) and reach out to the organizers to inquire about demos and instruction. That is the BEST way to learn.

With something like rope suspension, you need to be hands-on and be able to practice. You will also need a strong rig that can hold you. Local events will most likely have the apparatus you need.

Join sites like FetLife and Alt.com to find local events or visit your local sex/kink shop and speak with the employees. They are usually excellent sources of information for something like this.

For learning the tying/knot basics, these are excellent tools for you:

#Shameless18 Announcement

It’s with great pleasure that I can say we will be doing the Dear Mistress event again! But this time, we’re doing it a little differently: a little more private and a little more interactive. Did that get your blood pumping? Good.

Keep your eyes open for the announcement which should be happening in the next 6-8 weeks. In the meantime, get your tickets for #Shameless18 NOW so you can have the opportunity to get your Dear Mistress tickets when they are released.

About Dear Mistress

Do you have a question for our resident Dear Mistress?

She’s experienced in all things BDSM, power exchange, and general knowledge of anything outside of traditional vanilla relationships. With over 25 years in the lifestyle behind her, she continues to live what she preaches and she’s sharing what she knows with us.

Nothing is off limits. NOTHING. Too embarrassed to ask a friend or afraid your search history will be discovered? Ask Dear Mistress!

Authors: Are you writing a book with BDSM? Ask the Mistress! Just make sure you include your name and email address in the question submission box, and she’ll email you personally.

Check back every #BDSMFriday – or whenever it pleases her – for the answers to your questions.

Want to know more from the Lady in Charge? Visit Dear Mistress’s earlier contributions.

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Don’t Miss Our 2017 Black Friday Week Deals!

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Don’t Miss Our 2017 Black Friday Week Deals!

Every website known to womankind has a Black Friday 2017 sales list. We’re joining them with our collection of holiday shopping deals we think you’ll love!

Check out the sales we’ve found below. Pay close attention to the end dates, because some of the deals end earlier that others. We’ll be back on Friday with an all new list of Black Friday-only deals!

Amazon

$30 off Kindle Paperwhite (Shameless e-reader of choice!)

L’Occitane

7 Hand Creams for Only $25 or FREE with any $85 Purchase. Use Code: THANKFUL.
ends 11/25/2017

Sephora

Black Friday Countdown – up to 50% off!
Limited time deals

Zazzle

60% Off Luggage Tags & Clocks
Promo Code: ZONEDAYDEAL3
ends 11/22/2017

Torrid

40% Off Regular Items, 50% off Clearance Fashion for Sizes 10-30 at Torrid
ends 11/24/2017

Stella & Dot

Save Up to 40% Off Sale Items
ends 11/23/2017

Animoto

15% off Annual Professional and Business plans at Animoto with code AFFTHANKS15
ends 11/23/2017

Michael Kors

Enjoy an Additional 25% Off Already Reduced Styles on MichaelKors.com Beginning on 11/20-11/26
ends 11/25/17

Barnes & Noble

Black Friday Weekend Sale: Take 20% Off Your Order With Code GIVETHANKS
ends 11/26/2017

Gap

Early Access: It’s Black Friday. Get 50% off everything, no exclusions. Includes new arrivals! Use code BLKFRIDAY at gap.com. Online and in store. Restrictions apply.
ends 11/23/2017

Betsey Johnson

Black Friday is here! Get 35% off + Free Shipping with code BLACK
ends 11/26/2017

Keds

Black Friday Sale: 30% off full price + 10% Off Sale. Use Code NOLINES. Valid 11/21-11/26!
ends 11/26/2017

Tea Collection 

Shop Tea’s Black Friday Event
ends 11/25/2017

Crazy8

Web Exclusive: 40-75% Off the Entire Site at Crazy8
ends 11/22/2017

Crazy 8 Sale On Now!

Gymboree

50% Off Entire Purchase at Gymboree
ends 11/28/2017

Gymboree Sale On Now!

Nine West

Black Friday Sale: 50% Off Sitewide + Free Shipping from 11/21 through 11/26! Enjoy Free Shipping on All Orders through 12/15 12pm EST.
ends 11/26/2017

Eddie Bauer

Shop 40% Off During Black Friday Week Using Code FIREPLACE + Free Shipping
ends 11/23/2017

Nordstrom.com

Save up to 50% of select Beauty Tools at NORDSTROM from great brands T3, GHD, Dr Gross and more. Plus, over 80 Gifts with Purchase available. FREE Shipping. FREE Returns.
ends 11/28/2017

LELO

Up to 50% off + gift with purchase
Code: BFRIDAY17
*Offer valid only on LELO.com until November 29th 11:59PM PST

Saks Fifth Avenue

Holiday 2017: The Saks Gift Guide! Shop Now for Top Gifts.
ends 12/25/2017

Michaels

Up to 60% Off Trees + Free Shipping on 6 Ft. and Taller Chrismtas Trees

40% Off Any One Regular Price Item
ends 11/22/2017

Athleta

Final Sale: Up to 50% off at Athleta. Shop Now!
11/23/2017

Bombas

The Big Holiday Sale. 20% Off Sitewide.
Use Code HOLIDAY2017

Bombas Marls Ankle Socks

Hanna Andersson

Since 1983, Hanna Andersson has been making holiday traditions even more special with the purest, softest cotton pj’s ever. Over 30 collections to choose from!

Very Merry Stripes

Hanna’s famous striped pajamas get festive in holiday hues. From baking cookies to opening presents, you’re sure to have a Very Merry (and comfy) Christmas celebrating all of your traditions in these cheerful pj’s.

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Shameless Book Awards 2017 Nomination Submission

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Shameless Book Awards 2017 Nomination Submission

Our 5th Annual Shameless Book Awards are here! Not only are we asking for your nominations, but you could win a $25 Amazon gift card just for nominating!

It’s time to nominate your favorite romance books of 2017. What did you read this year that made you fall in love all over again? Was it a character who gutted your guts, a scene that made you squirm, or a book that you think should be at the top of everyone’s TBR?

It’s time to tell us what should be on the Shameless Book Awards 2017 Voting Ballot.

IMPORTANT

Books released between November 30, 2016 and November 30, 2017 are eligible for nomination.

• For each category you’re submitting a nomination, please include the NAME OF THE CHARACTER (Name) and/or the TITLE OF THE BOOK AND AUTHOR NAME (Book & Author).

• A nomination is not required for each category.

• Multiple nominations per category may be submitted with separate nomination forms.

Nominations close on November 30th.

Voting opens on December 4th!
Voting closes on December 11th.

Awards announced LIVE on Facebook December 14th at 8pm ET!

NOTE: If any of your nominations include anything related to 50 Shades of Grey, we will find you, and we will shame you.

Authors! Publicists! Share this page or the nominations form with your reader groups! It’s totally awesome to ask for nominations; think of it as a “For Your Consideration” ad like Oscars contenders do in Hollywood. Be shameless!

Nominations have closed. 

Giveaway

Enter to win a $25 Amazon gift card just for nominating a book! heel click

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Shameless Book Con: FAQ 2018

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Shameless Book Con: FAQ 2018

Here you’ll find all the answers to all the questions asked about Shameless Book Con 2018 presented by Entangled Publishing. If you don’t see your question answered, please leave your question in the comments section at the end of this post.

BUYING TICKETS

What does my ticket get me into?
ALL of the ticket info you need can be found on the Attendee Tickets Info page.

How many tickets can I buy at a time?

You may purchase up to 2 tickets per order. Each attendee needs to have a ticket in their own name because we use name badges for entrance.

How can I buy a ticket?
You may purchase a ticket on Eventbrite. Tickets may also be purchased at the event, depending on availability.

I need assistance with my books or help during the signing. Does my companion need a ticket?
Yes, every person entering the signing event must have a ticket. We offer a “No-Frills” ticket that an assistance companion may purchase. Please let us know that your companion has a No-Frills ticket for check-in with you.


ENTRY

Can I bring my kids?
All attendees entering the signing must be at least 16 years old. Exceptions can be made for baby-wearing.

The Smut Gala: Shameless Sideshow sponsored by Meredith Wild is a 21+ event.

What time can I line up to enter the signing?
You’re allowed to line up as early as your crazy ass wants to line up. The hotel will allow you to wait outside under the walkway by the pool.


SIGNING EVENT

Will I be able to buy books at the signing?
There will be a pop-up bookstore on site that will offer traditionally published books by many of the authors signing. Indie-published authors will have a selection of their own books at their table for sale. Most indie authors will offer pre-orders. Pre-order forms will be published throughout 2018 and available in the Attendee Facebook Group.

What can I use to haul my books around the signing?
We will be strictly enforcing our policy of NO HARD-SIDED ROLLING CARTS in the event room during the signing.

We recommended the Smart Cart by dBest soft-sided rolling cart (we’ve seen it priced anywhere from $5-30+) available on Amazon, eBags, or wherever you buy your soft-sided rolling carts.

There’s also this super strong large open top all-purpose tote if you don’t want something that rolls.

If you don’t like those options, any soft-sided cart or tote that measures no larger than carry-on luggage is fine.

Will we be able to bring books from home to get signed?
Absolutely!


OTHER EVENTS

What is the theme of the after party? Do I have to dress up?
The Smut Gala: Shameless Sideshow sponsored by Meredith Wild will be unlike any other after party you’ve attended. Our 2016 and 2017 events were OUTRAGEOUS! For 2018, we are going over the (big) top with our theme: sideshow. From costume contests to carnival games, you’re guaranteed to have a night to remember.

We strongly encourage dressing up in costume, however you interpret “sideshow.” Think freaky, wild, and over-the-top! Mermaid Lady, Strongman, Fortune Tellers, Bearded Lady, Acrobats, and any other sideshow character you can think of.

Dressing like a creepy clown is strictly forbidden.

What is UnHoly Day: Candy & Spoons?
Sunday at Shameless Book Con will be taken over by the hugely popular event Entangled Publishing has put on at other signing events. It will be a morning – OK, early afternoon – of loud, fight-to-the-death fun with authors, boxes of candy, big raffles, and TOWERS of books to take home!

When can I sign up to attend Dear Mistress?
We will open up registration to attend Dear Mistress in early 2018. An email will be sent to all attendees prior to the ticket release. This is a very popular, very limited capacity intimate Q&A with our own Lady in Charge. Dear Mistress is a free event with a suggested charity donation accepted at the door. Every attendee and author who wants to attend must register.

I’m an author assistant. What am I allowed to attend?
There are two types of assistants available to authors: Full Assistant and No-Frills Assistant.

Full Author Assistants are allowed into the VIP Cocktail Party and Showcase on Friday; entry with your author on Saturday morning at 9am and The Smut Gala.

No-Frills Author Assistants are allowed entry into the signing room only to assist their author.

Check with the author you’re assisting to find out if you are a Full Author Assistant or a No-Frills Assistant.


AUTHORS

Where can I sign up to be an author at a Shameless signing?
Thanks for your interest! Here’s the link to add yourself to our Interest Form.

What is the most updated list of attending authors?
The most updated list of authors committed to signing at Shameless Book Con 2018 can be seen and downloaded here.

A list of publishers and models who are attending is found here.

Authors who previously committed but have since canceled can be seen here.


HOTEL

When can I book my hotel room at the DoubleTree?
Now! Go to our special booking page and reserve your room!

Group Rate: $140/night
Group Name: SHAMELESS BOOK CON ATTENDEE ROOM BLOCK
Group Code: SBC

Will the elevators be working? 
We’ve been assured by several higher ups at the DoubleTree that their elevators are currently – and will be – fully functional during our event. Thanks be.

Don’t see your question answered above?

Ask it in the comments below! You’ll get an email with our answer, and it will be added to the FAQ above.

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Shameless Book Con: Attendee Tickets 2018

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Shameless Book Con: Attendee Tickets 2018

Attendee tickets for Entangled Publishing Presents Shameless Book Con 2018 go on sale
Wednesday, November 15, 2017 at 12:00pm ET!

BUY TICKETS HERE

See the ever-growing list of authors scheduled to sign at #Shameless18.