Can you have more than one submissive? Absolutely. You can have as many as you’re able to successfully maintain. It should be discussed in advance and agreed upon with your existing submissive.
No secrets. And the same can be said for the opposite.
A submissive can have more than one Dominant. It’s absolutely possible as long as there is COMMUNICATION and TRUST.
As for cheating, if your dynamic is clearly laid out and agreed upon (this is why contracts are beneficial), and your dynamic/contract includes the option for more than one submissive, Dominant, or that you (as a submissive) can be on loan to others, it’s in NO WAY cheating.
As for me personally, I don’t share. End of.
Here is some great reading material for you to consider:
Sadly, a lot of women get married at a younger age and do not fully understand what they need. Once they mature emotionally and sexually, they find themselves in a tough spot of not being truly fulfilled. Very challenging.
This describes me perfectly. I started dating my husband at 19, married at 21 (he was 31), and we’ve now been married 28 years. Like most couples, we’ve had our ups and downs, but we do love each other.
Unfortunately, we long ago settled into a mostly platonic relationship. I had no clue what I needed sexually or emotionally at 21, but I now recognize that we are not particularly good matches. I know I have submissive traits and would love to be cared for in my relationship and dominated sexually. My husband simply doesn’t have those desires.
I’ve shown him books, toys online, asked him if he’d like to try a few things, but he isn’t interested in anything different. In his words, he “just wants sex,” and I am definitely the caregiver of everyone, including him.
All of this leaves me stuck. I’ve known since a few years into our marriage that we don’t mesh sexually, which he has mostly blamed on me: because I have depression; because I just want to reject him; because I have Lupus and don’t feel good, etc.
I have never been unfaithful, because that’s simply not me, but it definitely is a very challenging position to be in. And not in a good way. No question.
I just wanted to tell you how accurate you were. Thank you for your wonderful and insightful responses to everyone’s questions. They’re very educational.
So many find themselves caught in this trap with no way out. My only advice is to keep trying to communicate your needs. Keep trying to introduce new things.
And to please, please seek counseling. Sometimes having your partner hear you tell your needs to someone else helps them to understand just how important they are. Your needs matter.
But what about a guy? Is it a good look on men too? Does it look boyish or sexy? Do women like it? I’m thinking of trying the sans pubic hair but wanted a woman’s opinion first. You can email me privately if you’d like.
Search for the prostate, stimulate it, and change his life forever. Trust me.
Prostate “milking” is a prostate massage. The prostate is a gland that surrounds the base of the urethra, and is found below the bladder but above the rectum. You can access the prostate through the anus and is located 2-3 inches inside the rectal cavity. It is on the front side of the body. It feels like a small lump.
Your hands should be clean. Trim your nails. Start with an external massage so you can help your partner relax. Using gloves is the safest, most sanitary option to prevent scratches or tears which can become infected.
3. FINDING IT
Each person is different, but the prostate is usually 2-3 inches inside the rectum. You need to press upwards towards the stomach. It’s roughly the size of a walnut. Sometimes it’s not obvious unless you’re aroused or during orgasm.
Apply lots of lube to your hand and to the anus. Never attempt anal play without lube. Using the pad of your finger, gently press, move in a circular motion, or try the “come hither” motion against the prostate. Communicate during exploration. Ask what feels good. Chances are you’ll know. Once you graduate beyond the finger, try a toy that is made for prostate stimulation (like the one I included below) and that takes a lot of the stress out of it. They can be moved around and some vibrate for added stimulation.
Follow his lead. Massaging the prostate can create such intense arousal that it is not uncommon for the penis to become flaccid. Do not be alarmed if this happens. The P-Spot orgasm is different than a penile orgasm and is experienced deep in the pelvis – without any penile stimulation. Some men say they can feel sensations in their penis. When they orgasm and ejaculate, be prepared for more than you’re used to, and also be prepared for it last for longer. Some men leak like a faucet, others don’t.
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