Kyleigh Jane had the idea to interview one of the only male erotica published authors, so of course, her first foray into interviewing male erotica authors is with Dr. Ivan Rusilko, co-author of The Winemaker’s Dinner series. You can see why.
I recently had the absolute pleasure to talk with the devestatingly handsome, Dr. Ivan Rusilko, co-author of The Winemaker’s Dinner series. (I recently recommended the series in my column, giving it ★★★★★ and highly recommend.) Not only did he step up to the plate, matching my sass and snark, he also charmed the pants right off of me! Dr. Ivan gives good interview… among other things…
[Editor’s Note: This interview is proof that some people, even author/sex doctor/model/hottie men, can have a sense of humor and indulge our womanly silliness.]
*Dr. Rusilko, thank you so much for taking the time to talk with me!
It is completely and utterly my pleasure.
*I have to admit, I was slightly skeptical when I read the pitch for Winemaker. I was thinking, “So here’s this sexy, long haired bo-hunk doctor-slash model-slash former two time Mr. USA… and now he’s writing erotic romance based off of his own life? With his own face on the cover?…” Admittedly, I may have been a little bratty and judge’y about it, thinking Ivan Rusilko was going to be a total wanker. But I was sooooo wrong! SO wrong! I LOVED it!
Hahahaha! Well I assure you, you are not alone in your assumption. The premise is unique in that I opened myself up completely for this project, which either reads ‘wanker and narcissistic’ or ‘relatable and endearing.’ I get that. But one of the overall themes of the series is that assumptions are indeed the mother of all fuck ups and I have learned that the hard way once or twice in my life! So happy you loved though. Hopefully if you continue to read the series your opinion doesn’t change. 😉
*Literary Ivan seemed very authentic and incredibly lovable. Not to mention, he’s a ridiculously sexy panty-melter. So just how much of this book is based on your real life?
Hopefully the panty melter part! Every scene in the book is drawn from an experience and in some cases a precise moment in my romantic history. It truly is an erotic memoir. The overall arc is fictionalized as the characters are fun little snippets of real life people, but I can assure you all the sex scenes hold a special place in my heart and mind. 😉
*Are you really this suave and lovable, and generally awesome? Surely you have some character flaw? Some Achilles heel?
I’ve been told I can be charming but I’ve also been told I’m an asshole so there’s that for ya. Hmmm… my Achilles heel thus far is that I am never satisfied with what I have. I always strive to better the situation. This is great in work and business but in love, not so much. Always building towards the PERFECT relationship is much like searching for that white whale. You can picture it, see it, imagine yourself conquering it, BUT unfortunately it will never happen. It takes many failed attempts to realize that perfection is boring and it’s the small little imperfect things that make a relationship perfect.
*Is there a real Jaden in your life?
I sure as shit hope so! When I find her I will be sure to scream it from the closest mountain top, if she isn’t married already…I’d hate to think some lucky bastard found her first.
*One of my favorite parts of Appetizers was meeting Ivan’s (your?) family. I instantly fell in love. Is that a pretty true to life depiction of them? Can I come shoot guns in the woods with all of you?!
Try living with my dad for a week and see if you still love them. Hahaha! That was one of my favorite parts of the book, “going home” and describing them. I assure you that exact scenario was one of those truths to the “T”, guns and all with a former ex. What a memory that is. I am so thankful to have this kind of up-bringing and consider myself one of the luckiest people in the world because of it. You let me know when you are free and it’s a date… I’ll go buy some shells now.
*As I said earlier, you are a doctor, model, former Mr. USA, etcetera. Quite an impressive resume! What on earth made you decided to take a stab at writing erotic romance?!
I was contacted on Facebook by my co-author, Everly Drummond, who had inquired about using the doctor, USA and model background along with my name and image as a character for a book she wanted to start. After deliberating over a bottle or two of wine I proposed that we write one together and the rest is history. I now know she was just like a drug dealer. She introduced me to this literary world with just a taste, and now I am fully addicted.
*Not only did you take a stab at writing, you (along with co-author Everly Drummond) are really quite an exceptional story teller! Will Dr. Ivan be penning any more delicious reads, beyond the Winemaker series?
Damn right! I have recently started The Freak Unleashed. I am going to require you to finish book three and then tell me if it is something you would find “delicious” as a read. I am also expanding into more philosophical type writing as I have come to find that very titillating. But for sure there will be much more hot, dirty sex, lip biting orgasms, and toe curling sexcapades flowing from these fingers soon, figuratively and literally. 😉
*What is your favorite scene in Appetizers?
Granted, I have many…
Sex Scene – before the mad dash to the airport (Boom)
Romance – cooking the dinner together
Overall – my family’s introduction
*As a sexual health physician, what advice can you give women on having the best sex life possible?
Rules to finding the best sex ever (abridged version):
- Learn to love sex… it’s okay.
- Be open and forward with what you want in bed no matter how scandalous it may seem. Men are dogs, they will love anything you suggest.
- Be vocal… Men don’t want to ponder if you are cumming… they want you to blow their fucking ear drums out. Men need reassurance, so give it to them. The leading cause of ED in this world is insecurity. Let him know how he is doing.
- Learn your body… The Seven Wonders of the World are not waterfalls and pyramids… they are seven types of physiological orgasms a women can experience and I think they should explore and strive to experience them all.
- Masturbation is okay… Learn what makes you cum and teach it to your man. He will appreciate it.
- Look at sex as an adventure not a job.
- Visit me in Miami Beach… Just kidding!!
(Yowza! I’m gonna need a minute…)
Ok, you have now entered the rapid fire nonsense portion of this interview.
*Boxers or briefs?
Depends on who is sleeping next to me, I would prefer to just wear them.
*Favorite song on your iPod?
Free Bird, Lynyrd Skynyrd
*If you were a woman for a day, what would you do?
Explore the fuck out of myself.
* Favorite Quote?
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” – Dr. Sueuss
Favorite thing to have someone moan into my ear is very, very different.
Women smoking cigarettes. However, women with cigars? Hell yeah, girl!
The Screwtape Letters by CS Lewis
(THAT’S MY FAVORITE, TOO!)
*Craziest thing you’ve ever done?
Wrote an erotic memoir. No, no, no, that’s not it…wrote three erotic memoirs.
*Would you rather have a vagina on your forehead, or a row of penises down your back like a stegosaurus?
I would say a vagina on my forehead because there would most likely be a pair of lips on my crotch (yes I interpreted it this way ahhaha).
*Autobots or Decepticons?
Autobots – Even if you aren’t always good, acting like you are is.
Best masterbater in the world
Best masterbater in the world
*What cartoon character turns you on the most?
It’s trite but honest, Jessica Rabbit.
*What is the oldest thing in your refrigerator?
Baking soda. heheh
In the heart of every woman in the world, and I won’t stop looking till I find that little son of a bitch.
*Can you take a picture of yourself, right at this very moment and send it?
Pic attached was taken about 10 minutes ago, on the streets of Buenos Aires, Argentina.
Speaking of pics, if you need or want more, please just let me know. I’ve got a ton I can share. Clothing optional… hahaha!!
*Dr. Rusilko, Thank you very, very much. I am so sorry for ever thinking you might be a douche. I am woman enough to admit that I was completely wrong. You are a gentleman, and a scholar. Please allow me to make it up to you by cooking you dinner. Clothing optional. Guest choice. You can bring the wine. 😉
No worries. I’ll forgive you if clothing is optional with the exception of a black garter belt/stockings and high heels (all very necessary), wine – Velvet Glove of course – and great music – Frank Sinatra, please. For dinner, Ahi Tuna and for dessert, each other. Let me know the time and the place! hahaha
God bless and remember-
Love is Beautiful
Well, if anyone needs me, I’ll just be over here nursing my mega crush on the good Doctor, and finishing the Winemaker’s Dinner series — which is complete, and out now, on Amazon!
About Kyleigh Jane
I suppose I was introduced to romance at an early age. When I was around 10 years old, I happened upon a highlighted and dog eared copy of “The Joy Of Sex” on my mother’s bookshelf. I was shocked. I was fascinated. Maybe it was the 1970s power muffs, maybe it was the mustaches, maybe it was phrases such as “tongue bath”, who knows. A couple of years later it was V.C. Andrews “Flowers In The Attic,” which upon discovery, my mom took away from me. From there I chugged along reading Danielle Steel novels, until one day, a little book called “Fifty Shades Of Grey” came along. It was a sirens call. It was everything I never knew I wanted. I was hooked. My love of reading romance blossomed into a new love for erotica, and I haven’t stopped reading since. I have a love for stories with grit, and substance, and meat on their bones. The dark stories, the format breakers, the unusual. I’m always searching for that next great read.
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